On my search for Mr. Right

Several weeks ago I met a guy at the pool hall.  There were six of us, three girls and three guys.  We had a great game of pool and as time went on, one of the guys began to show interest in me.  He is tall, lean, good looking, definitely my type.  The other two guys were good looking too, but one had a kid, and I don’t usually date guys with baggage.  The other one was off limits cuz he was interested in my friend.  So Mr. Wonderful, lets call him Pavel, was great.  I was interested in him physically for sure.  It was time to figure out what he’s like inside.  Unfortunately the Daddy and Mr. Wonderful had to leave early and soon after they left, we left too.  As we were paying for the bill we realized that those two left us to pay for the bill that they should have chipped in to cover as well.  That should have tipped me off that he’s a looser.   We never did exchange numbers and that was the end of it, or so I thought.

My friend Jen decided to throw another get together and invited Pavel because she found out from Daddy that Pavel had a crush on me.  I, of course was soo thrilled by this, I mean I never had a guy crush on me before.  I was looking forward to seeing him again now more so then before.  The party was held at a place I absolutely don’t like, but I had no say in the matter.  When I saw him I was all girly and giggly.  We danced, we grinded, we “talked” or was it shouted at each other stupid pleasantries.  At the end of the night the guys walked Jen and me to my car and that’s when we exchanged numbers.  I was excited, finally I met a guy who seems cool and doesn’t go to my gym.  Yes!

Dating is not Painting

It has been a while since I last wrote mainly because I have been too busy sleeping or trying to figure out what my life is all about and why I fuck up on a daily basis, get mad at myself and fuck up yet again only to mess up yet again.  This “destructive” behavior has brought me to a point where I was about to give up.  Thankfully I have great friends and support from them to realize that when life is hard sometimes it’s okay to admit to being weak and ask for help.

That said, I wanted to share my experience with dating/seeing multiple people at the same time… Aside from the fact that it is daunting on my supper precious sleep time.  Keeping track of what is happening could get out of hand and quite annoying.  After the first week I came to the conclusion that # 3 would have to go right away.  He is a cool guy, but I realized that dating someone who is a patron at the gym would be bad if things were to heat up and then get broken off.  Glad I did that because I don’t feel bad now that I see him.  Good thing I kept my head and did not let it go anywhere.

Hanging Out, Going Out, Dating

I’ve been going out like crazy lately, three or four nights a week.  Going out with my friends, colleagues and guys.  Right now I’m doing my best juggling three guys.  I have to say it is getting demanding.  I am at times sleep deprived and when that happens I don’t remember what comes out of my mouth.  I have managed to call one of my guy friends by another name.  That was bad till I realized that he didn’t hear me.  Feeew, that was a nice dodge.

If I don’t change things soon enough I might have to drop all three of them.  My head hasn’t been in the right place for a long time.  I have things piling up because every spare second I have I spend sleeping.  I have to give props to girls and guys out there who date more then one person at a time, it’s  tough and fun all at the same time.  Enjoy while it lasts.

Nap time!

Work & Drama

I’m really happy about the decision I made going into personal training.  It’s a tough job yet the rewards I see are great.  I’m constantly on my feet, though in the beginning was torture.  I would come home and crash because my body wasn’t used to this kind of abuse.  As an ex-accountant I was used to sitting for eight hours a day staring into a computer.  Now I have to walk around and boy my body wasn’t used to the change.  I kept telling my co-workers that I’ll come back to work out but the second I got home and ate I passed out.  That was pretty much my whole week.  I couldn’t even write, though I had great ideas – none of which I remember now because I didn’t have the strength to write them down.

The second week was better, I worked out a few times and I’m feeling more energized.  I have to say that I’m happier now, I’m constantly busy and I don’t have too much time for myself which is good because when I have too much spare time I start having negative thoughts that taunt me.  The only draw back of my career at the moment is that I am still not good at selling my services, but I am making acquaintances with the gym goers and helping them out when ever I can.  I know what I need to do to fix my uncertainty – I need to get fit myself and create a routine that I can teach to others.  Then I’ll be ready to attack and help the average folks get in shape.

Drama at work:

Dating Pretty People

I have recently started dating.  It has been a long while – close to four months – since I last dated.  I have been avoiding the dating seen like a plague.  It seemes that people are mainly interested in the “game” of dating.  Girls trying to squeeze the last penny out of guys, and guys trying to get these girls to pay up – in the bedroom.  I know I’m stereotyping but after dating guys from Europe/Russia, I found that New York guys are soooo not up to par, and so I gave up dating.

Several weeks ago I ran into a friend, who has changed dramatically and for the better.  I have to say his looks took my breath away.  I am exaggerating a bit, but he is one hot piece of meat, bluntly put.  I have dated good-looking guys before and it’s always a treat.  This one was a treat and a half.  Talk about Mr. Narcissi syndrome.  I have never met someone who was so into himself.  “Look at me and my abs, I don’t believe in being fat.  So do you know a joke (usually slap jokes with no wit)?”

I have heard people talk about pretty people being conceited, shallow, and dumb at times, but I never experienced it myself. Not to knock him, but when you are a pretty face and nothing upstairs… I say invest in your brains.  And if you are everything upstairs (really smart) invest time in your appearance.  Make yourself an all around sex bomb.

I have to admit I enjoy dating good-looking people, but if they can’t stimulate my brain, it is very hard for me to be motivated to see them again and again and again

Life is a highway…I want to ride it…

“You don’t have the right to tell me what to do…or criticize me in any way”

“And you don’t have the right to waste your life away.  You have wasted two years of your life crying over spilled milk…Get over it!!!! Move on!  Life has way to much to offer, but if you don’t get out of your rut… You will never see the beauty that is love!”

Why it’s cool to be a Cougar

Young guys are happy to please and easy to talk to

They will kiss you all the time and everywhere, they are shameless that way

They are firm all around 

They don’t know that arguing with a woman is useless and they let us see what they are made of

They are great in bed, because you trained them

The world is at their feet and they are sinfully optimistic!

They have a great motto: DSP – Drink, Sex, Party

They love to see how smart you are and they like to show how smart they are

They are attentive, vibrant and sexy as hell

They have more balls than grown men (unless he’s going through his midlife crisis)

They are passionate, always!

They are always ready to have fun

Cradle robbing is just fun  lol

NYC Men

It seems that NYC men have all been neutered, they don’t have the balls to come up to a woman and ask her to dance or strike up a decent conversation.  Sheesh, such babies when it comes to their damn egos.  Grow up and take a chance.  No wonder women are taking on more active roles these days.  Somebody had to pick up the slack!

How I miss my Italians, Israelies, Russians and all the other cultures that don’t neutere their men and who have the balls to come up to a woman 

BRAVO to these men!!!

I want it All while being a Deadbeat

I am tired of hearing; “there are no good men these days” everywhere I turn.

It seems these days’ both genders are not willing to compromise or bring much of anything to the relationship table. On the surface I can say that these people are just not ready. They get into relationships without knowing what they really want, or they have diluted sense of what a relationship is about. Either way, this brings about unnecessary negativity and remarks about the opposite sex.

I know a girl who has been engaged four times! In my opinion that is a bit excessive. I realize that Bukharian traditions expect a marriage to come out of dating, but that doesn’t mean that we need to get engaged to ever single guy we meet. Dating is a way to sniff out the opposite sex and see if you like what you smell, or not.

Dating Tips

“So what do you want to do?”

I find this question to be quite common when people are going out (dating). I do not like this question at all. I feel that a person should have something in mind always and have the ability to compromise. When you come prepared on your date, it shows that you have put some effort into making evening interesting. That said here are some ideas that can be implemented when going out (dating).

Ordinary
Drinks
Dinner
Movie
Billiard
Ping-pong
Long Walks